Tips For Handling Your Mediation
Mediation is a highly structured, interactive process in which an impartial third-party helps to dispute parties in negotiating conflict through the utilization of specific communication and negotiation strategies. Participants in mediation all are encouraged to actively engage in the whole process.
As a mediator, you must be aware of your individual’s position in the conflict and the needs that they have. Your objective as a mediator should be to help them to arrive at mutually agreeable resolutions that both parties can live with. You will need to make a decision on whether or not a dispute resolution is in their best interest. This will be based upon the facts and evidence that you have gathered. This will also depend on the overall nature of the case you are handling.
An important factor to consider when selecting an appropriate mediator is how long they have been practicing mediation. It is advisable to find someone who has had a number of mediation sessions. If a mediator has experience in mediating a wide variety of cases, it may be helpful for you to interview them first.
Another important consideration is the location of the mediation. You will want to make sure that the location allows you to reach all participants. Make sure that you select a location where there are sufficient parking and access for those who need to leave.
Be sure to choose a place that has adequate phone reception. If a telephone is used, make sure that the people you are speaking with are able to hear the conversation. It is helpful if you can provide a note pad so that you can keep a record of your communication with the other parties.
Be aware that during a mediation, you and the other parties involved in the dispute are bound by confidentiality. You must remain as neutral as possible during the entire process.
Try to schedule a time when there will not be distractions. In order to facilitate the mediation, try to avoid being too active during the day. If you have children, try to arrange activities during the day that you can do alone and not involve your children in the process, such as watching a movie or reading.
Try to stay in one room during the mediation. You can use a computer for communications during the mediation, but don’t talk on the phone or leave the room during the mediation.
Try to limit the amount of talking you do during the mediation. You don’t want to give too much away.
Try to prepare your notes before the mediation begins. Be prepared to write down key points of the discussion so that you can refer back to them during the mediation. This way, you can refer to them if you need to.
Try to avoid talking at length during the mediation unless you absolutely have to. If there is a question that needs to be answered, discuss it at the appropriate time during the mediation.
Don’t worry if you feel nervous during a mediation meeting. As with any type of therapy, you can make it easier by being proactive and prepared.
Try not to become discouraged after an unsuccessful mediation. Many people give up many times during the course of their relationship, but they usually have learned from past mistakes. Don’t give up hope; continue to work on your relationships with your partner and try to work things out if you haven’t reached an agreement yet.
Try to take breaks during the mediation. Sometimes, both parties may want to take a break in order to refresh themselves. But don’t do this if you want to maintain the integrity of the mediation process or to get more of what you want out of the process.
Finally, try not to force yourself to accept what your partner is offering you. during the mediation. By accepting what they offer, you are giving up your right to make your own decisions.
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