Including Your Children in Mediation: What You Need to Know

Divorce can be a challenging time for everyone involved, particularly children. Many parents wonder if it’s appropriate to include their children in the mediation process, either as observers or participants. In this article, we’ll explore the pros and cons of including children in mediation sessions and what you need to know.

What is Mediation?

Mediation is a process that involves working with a neutral third party (the mediator) to negotiate and resolve issues related to divorce, such as child custody, child support, and property division. The mediator does not take sides or make decisions for the parties, but instead facilitates communication and helps the parties to reach an agreement that works for everyone.

Can Children Participate in Mediation Sessions?

In general, children are not allowed to participate in mediation sessions, as they are not parties to the divorce. However, there may be situations where it is appropriate for children to be involved, such as:

1. Child custody issues: If the parties are having difficulty reaching an agreement on child custody, the mediator may meet with the children to get their input and understand their preferences.
2. Child support issues: If the parties are having difficulty reaching an agreement on child support, the mediator may meet with the children to discuss their needs and expenses.
3. Parenting plans: If the parties are working on developing a parenting plan, the children may be involved in the process to ensure that their needs and interests are taken into account.

Benefits of Including Children in Mediation Sessions

There are several benefits to including children in mediation sessions, including:

1. Empowerment: Including children in the mediation process can help them feel heard and empowered, and give them a sense of control over the decisions that will affect their lives.
2. Clarity: Meeting with the children can help the mediator and the parties to gain a better understanding of their needs and preferences.
3. Stability: Involving children in the mediation process can help them feel more secure and stable during a difficult and uncertain time.

Conclusion

Involving children in mediation sessions can be a sensitive and complex issue, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. However, when done appropriately and with the children’s best interests in mind, including children in mediation sessions can have numerous benefits. At Family Mediation Service, we can provide guidance and support to help you make the best decisions for your family during the divorce process.